Thanksgiving is a holiday filled with family traditions, warm meals, and shared memories. But for families with children on the autism spectrum, it can also present unique challenges. From overwhelming sensory experiences to changes in routine, the holiday can bring extra stress. With some thoughtful preparation, Thanksgiving can be a day that everyone enjoys. Here are some tips to make Thanksgiving more comfortable, fun, and inclusive for everyone:
1. Introduce the Holiday Early
Take some time in the days leading up to Thanksgiving to introduce the holiday to your child. Sharing stories about Thanksgiving, its history, and family traditions can help your child understand the holiday and what to expect. Picture books, videos, or simple social stories can be helpful tools for creating a sense of familiarity, which often helps reduce anxiety.
2. Prepare with the Host
If you’re celebrating Thanksgiving outside your home, consider talking with the host beforehand about any sensory or behavioral needs your child might have. Discuss potential sensory challenges that could arise, like bright lights, strong scents from seasonal candles, loud conversations, and unfamiliar foods. Being aware of these elements ahead of time can help the host create a more welcoming and accommodating environment.
3. Practice Mealtime Routines
Thanksgiving often includes more formal table manners and eating routines, which may feel unfamiliar or stressful for some children with autism. To ease the transition, practice mealtime routines with your child beforehand. This can include going over table manners and explaining what to expect during a Thanksgiving meal, which can help your child feel more prepared and at ease.
4. Create a Signal for Breaks
The holiday can become overwhelming, especially when surrounded by unfamiliar faces and increased noise levels. Discuss with your child a private signal or word they can use if they need a break. Set up a quiet area where they can retreat and recharge if they begin to feel overstimulated. Giving them control over this option can help them feel safer and more comfortable throughout the day.
5. Offer Comfort Foods
Thanksgiving traditions don’t have to be strict or inflexible, especially if your child is a picky eater. Bringing along a few of your child’s favorite snacks or dishes can provide a sense of comfort and familiarity. Letting them help choose a dish, even if it isn’t part of the traditional Thanksgiving menu, can help make the day feel more inclusive and enjoyable.
6. Embrace Flexibility
Thanksgiving traditions are special, but they don’t need to be a source of pressure. There’s no “perfect” way to celebrate, so if a quieter day at home feels right for your family, go for it! Allow your child to dress in comfortable clothes, and don’t feel pressured to attend large gatherings if it will cause undue stress. Enjoying a peaceful meal at home can be just as memorable and meaningful.
Seeking Extra Support?
If your child struggles with holidays and family gatherings, you’re not alone. Evidence-based therapies, like Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), can help children with autism navigate these settings with greater ease. Therapies like ABA can provide coping tools for children to manage sensory experiences and social interactions in new or unfamiliar environments, enhancing their comfort and confidence.
Thanksgiving can be a time of growth and joy for the entire family. With a little planning and consideration, we can create a Thanksgiving that is both meaningful and inclusive. From our family to yours, we wish you a peaceful, happy Thanksgiving! 🍂 🦃
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